you’re all that

"What are some practices you can do to get comfortable with uncertainty?" When you notice an urge to ruminate/ worry/ finish a story in your head, instead of saying "it's going to be ok" say "I don't have control and I love that." Stop praying for specific things. Ask instead for the willingness to be open to ALL THE GOOD this world has to offer you, even though you have no idea what that looks like. When any big emotion comes up in the body, instead of just noticing it, lean into it. Let it wash over you no matter how uncomfortable. This teaches your brain that when big feelings hit, you can handle them and you don't need to find certainty to make them go away.

because all love is….showing up when it’s inconvenient and choosing to believe in a future you can’t see yet 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

Behind most male rage is grief that was never permitted to speak. Boys learn early that sadness is weakness and fear is failure, so everything gets converted into the one acceptable currency. This is not an excuse for how he treats you. It is an explanation for why he can raise his voice but cannot say “I’m hurt.” You cannot heal this for him. You were never supposed to.

before you go to bed tonight remember that there is no need to be stressed. you are okay. you have time to slow down and calculate your next steps. your whole life is still ahead of you. you got this.

how to find your calling?

The best investments are the things no one can take away from you: knowledge, experience, mindset, attitude.

“Does knowing me more, lead to loving me less?” Responses from anonymous user; I don’t really know if someone who needs this will ever read it, but I still want to share something. My girlfriend is a distant person sometimes, and I always knew her for that perfect version of her, but I started to notice that she isn’t as perfect as I thought, which in my eyes made her more beautiful. She messes up, yes,she makes mistakes,she pushes me away,but when she lets me in, I don’t see failure but I see someone who keeps trying and keeps getting back up no matter what the world throws at them. So I guess what I’m trying to say is,if someone really loves you, they won’t love you less because you’re not “perfect,” but they will love you more and care for you even more than before. I hope this helps someone.

The next time you immediately dismiss your own perception, I want you to ask yourself: who benefits from me not trusting what I notice? See who comes to mind.

what are we doing if we are not helping each other?

[OPEN IF OVERTHINKING] ok but what if everything works out and u figure it out like u always have??

If you feel like giving up because you're not seeing results, remember this: the last thing to grow on a tree is the fruit. it takes hundreds of repetitions (and failures) for new neutral connections to form. you often can't feel or see the benefits of your hard work right away. until one day...the fruit appears. stay the course!

No, you cannot walk 10,000 steps daily, get 8 hours of sleep, cook every night, clean every day, take care of a family, make time for your own hobbies, and still be productive at work every day. This is not just propaganda, it is nonsense. Free yourself from it.

food for thought

i hope april brings you good thoughts 'either way, i'm good' sparkly new things doubly good thoughts long hugs that feels right messy authenticity (the right vibes) everything you want and more warm small talks that feels real easter eggs that makes you smile museum of laughter anxiousless conversations good mondays what you're looking for

Just because a belief feels familiar doesn't mean it is true.

Doing something uncomfortable with other people in a world that is just separating us further and further apart is a net positive.

"If you weren't capable, the opportunity would have never come you're way. You belong."

"It ain’t your f***'ing fault that you were dealt a bad hand, but…it is your responsibility. How long will you allow your past to hold you back before you finally take control of your future?" ​ ― David Goggins from Never Finished

Love in my eyes can be rooted in 2 imperfect people choosing each other and growing over time & becoming new versions of themselves through their bond. But so many people keep refining optimizing & refining themselves in all areas of life trying to become more and more “ready” but in that process, they are slowly phasing themselves out of connection. After all the self improvement, one day you’ll prob look up & wonder why it’s hella lonely cause modern dating is now a world where no one is staying for the entire book but merely for chapters haha look what our cultural conditioning has brought us to, better or for worse!

whatever you do, don’t let it ruin your heart.