Halal Muslim Couple

This is nothing but Riya (show off) and this isn't permissible in Ibaadah. You can get married without the entire traffic in town getting disrupted by your convoy of baloon customized cars causing hold-ups. It was never reported that the pious predecessors would adorn their camels or horses in any unique way when riding for their own weddings. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wassalam said; You will follow the ways of those who came before you, hand span by handspan, cubit by cubit, to an extent that if they entire a lizard hole, you'll also immitate them and enter it too. The companions asked, are you referring to the Jews and Christians ? The Rasul replied; Who else (if not them) The words of the prophet are so true, we immitate them in everything today, as if we have no religious guidance of our own, yet they do not immitate us in anything. It's so shameful. 7. *Tabarruj of the bride:* A large number of Muslim brides who are sometimes even "conscious sisters" still fall into this fitnah. After wearing a Hijab all your life, you then decide to abandon your Hijab and Niqab on your wedding day, show your body, cleavages with a heavily adorned face with every costume box kit, snap pictures and display your "full beauty" for everyone to see, then by the next day you wear your Hijab and Niqab again. How sensible is that ? May Allah rectify our affairs.

1. *Wedding gowns like that of Christians;* These days you'd now find the bride wearing a wedding gown designed and sewed exactly like that of Christians wedding gowns, usually white colour like theirs. There is no need for a new revelation for anyone that has common sense to know that this is a clear imitation (tashahbuh) of the Kafiraat (disbelieving women) in their wedding dress codes which has no similarity with Islam in anyway. The Prophet said; Whoever immitates any group of people, is surely a part of them May we not be resurrected among the unbelievers on the day of judgement. Ameen. You are required to wear the normal shari'ah Hijab you have always worn every other day on your wedding day, no special designs, no fancy attire. You can of course wear a special dress inside the Hijab, but whatever you chose to wear still has to be covered completely with the proper Hijab. 2. *Flower boys and girls:* Muslim weddings have also adopted this immigration from the non-muslims who are known to have a group of people designated to wear particular garments to identify as flower boys and girls. They are paraded around in front of the congregation, following behind the bride and groom in a single file like a procession. This act is alien to Islam and has no basis in the pristine islam The celebrants are the bride and groom only, friends and well wishers can play supporting role by donating or helping with logistics or even distribution of food and arrangement, and nothing else. 3. *Pre-wedding photos:* This is another innovation from the west which has enveloped islamic weddings unfortunately. The intending couples would go to studios to snap photos of themselves and post on the internet as pre-wedding photos in various postures. All these have no basis in Islam. Any Muslim man who does so or contents to such has no gheerah (protective jealousy) for allowing pictures of his wife in the internet for thousands or millions of people to see and admire. 4. *Wedding cakes:* This is another immitation of the unbelievers adopted by many Muslims today. The wedding is meant to be a feast (for the guest), and not a kind of birthday ceremony for the celebrants. The bride and groom should feed people with whatever they can afford, and it's a wrap. There is no provision for purchasing an expensive cake, placing it in front of the audience, and then having the bride and groom sit in front of everybody while they both cut the cake together, and the entire congregation watches them. Islamically, a bride is not an object of public scrutiny that should even be made to sit in front of everybody for admiration or any other purpose. The female companions wouldn't even step out during their own weddings, they'd remain indoors with their friends, they'd only come out to attend to their female guests and go back inside. It is the groom (sahabi) that'd be outside coordinating the wedding, feeding people and attending to guests. It was never reported in any Hadith or athar that a sahabi and sahabiyyah would sit in front of everybody to cut cake, snap pictures or any other reason. If the bride and groom wishes to eat a cake, they can do that privately on their own.. 5. *Bride and groom's dance:* In many weddings today, there comes a particular time when the bride and groom are made to dance amidst heavy music and drum beats, while everyone watches them or even join in their dance, while some people spray money on them. All these are unislamic and all shades of wrong, and whoever indulges in such has no sense of shame in the least The Prophet said; Whoever feels no shame at all, should do whatever he wishes. Islam allows your new bride to dance for you in private and you can both dance to entertain eachother privately, but bringing your dance steps to the public galore to entertain people ? Irritating and shameless. 6. *Baloon strapped convoys:* Many Muslims also inmitate the Christians in the act of using balloons to strap their cars to show-off around town as the latest couple in town.

12 Rights of a Wife upon Her Husband: 1. To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy. 2. To be kind to her. The Prophet SAW Said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.” 3. Not to harm her. 4. To be loving to her, examples: (A) Loving to her with your tongue. Nice words, tell her you love her. Tell her how good she looks. (B) If your wife asks you to get her something and you can't get it , say I'll get it Insha’Allah. (C) That the man beautifies himself with that which is reasonable, (not intimating women). (D) From being loving to your wife is that you help her with housework. This is from the example of the prophet (SAW) (E) That He is to be playful with His wife. (F) Sharing food with her. (G) To cuddle with her. (H) Sleep under the same cover. (I) They would bathe together: On the authority of 'Āʿishah (raḍī Allāhu ʿanhu) who said: “I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between Us such that Our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: “Leave some for me, leave some for me!' She added: ‘We were in a state of Janaabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).” [Al-Bukharee and Muslim] 5. That the men must not curse or swear at his wife, or insult her appearance. 6. A man must not boycott her and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home. 7. A man should not expose the secrets of his wife “Verily among the worst people before Allāh on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets.” [Muslim, Ibn Abī Shaybah, Aḥmad and others]. 8. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings. A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good. To look only good in her. 9. That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her. 10. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. It is said that some men have the best manners out in the market , but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion! Kind to strange women in the markets but not to his wife in the home. The best of you are the best of you to your wives. There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Combine the two , and that is good. 11. That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire. O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allāh in what He commands them but do what they are commanded. 12. That the man should have some type of jealousy for his wife. Jealousy of protecting her from evil, not for her to be exposed to strange men, not for her to speak to strange men etc. but not the abusive jealousy. May Allah grant all Sisters in Islam husbands who protect them and take care of them and May Allah grant our brothers the ability to do so, Ameen.

WISDOM FOR WOMEN 1. A First Class degree won't make you a first class wife, rather, your submission and respect will. 2. The woman who respects her husband is the best wife anyone would ever have. 3. Your character and attitude will go a long way in determining whether your husband will wish he never regret getting married to you. 4. To be a great wife, you need more anger management skills than nagging skills. The best gift you can give to your husband is peace of mind 5. Be a leader at work or anywhere else, but be a companion at home... it's wisdom. 6. Don't compete with your husband, complement him.- keep encouraging your husband and pray for Him always 7. Your strength is in humility and submission, not in strife and contention- Love to a man is submission - Respect him and he will love you 8. Be tender, every man respect a tender woman but firm- appreciate him and praise him - 9. Never punish your husband by starving him of food or s*x, he may be forced to get it outside. 10. There is nothing wrong in accepting that you are wrong when you are wrong. - be the first to say am sorry 11. Prepare to forgive your husband if he wrongs you. For a forgiving wife is better than a vengeful wife. 12. Make a decision to be a good wife, you will need it in the long run- 13. Choose peace over pride - speak gently- your words can heal or wound him 14- correct him in private, praise him in public and protect your marriage from outside opinions A wise woman builds her home and a f**lish woman pulls it down with her own hands

Before You Cheat - Think Again‼️ Cheating destroys more than trust - it destroys lives. One night of pleasure can lead to a lifetime of regret. Don’t trade your covenant for a cheap thrill. Betrayal may excite, but it wounds deeply. Faithfulness is not old school - it’s wisdom. Cheating isn’t sexy - loyalty is. Faithfulness is sexy - and rare. The most attractive spouse is the one who stays true, not the one who strays. Before you cheat, think of your children, your vows, and the pain you’ll cause. Think of the tears you won’t see. Infidelity is a shortcut to regret and a highway to heartbreak. When you betray your spouse, you betray yourself. You lose your own peace. Your conscience haunts you. Cheating doesn’t just break hearts - it breaks homes. Pleasure fades, scars remain. If you’re secretly cheating, you can change. Faithfulness is a choice. You’re stronger than the urge. Identify your triggers. Avoid the traps. Stop feeding secrets. Faithfulness protects what you love.

Phone Addiction Can Kill Your Marriage...✍️ Phones steal time. Phones steal attention. Phones steal emotional presence. You sit beside your spouse, but your heart is online. You scroll. You swipe. You tap. Meanwhile, your partner feels ignored. Addiction starts small. Just five minutes. Then thirty. Then two hours. Your spouse becomes background noise. You lose connection. You lose eye contact. You lose deep conversations. Love dries quietly. Put your phone down. Look at your spouse. Talk. Ask questions. Laugh. Listen with your heart. Your partner needs your voice. Not your emojis. Not your likes. Not your scrolling. Phones are tools. Not life. Not love. Not intimacy. Social media cannot hug you. It cannot heal you. It cannot protect your vows. Your marriage needs real presence. Give your best energy to your spouse. Not to strangers online. Not to comments. Not to endless videos. Phone addiction can kill your marriage. Protect your connection with your partner intentionally.

A happy marriage doesn't need the ideal house, flawless kids, the ultimate job or best car, just perfect commitments & unconditional love. There are six keys to a great relationship: ♥️ 1- Friendship: Try to be your spouse best friend. No matter what happens, be a friend first, and a lover later. 2- Trust: The key element to any relationship is trust, so before starting this beautiful journey with your spouse, learn to trust in all circumstances. 3- Understanding: Try to figure out each other and work out on our differences. There are going to be many differences, but it’s mutual compromise and sacrifice which makes this relationship beautiful. 4- Communication: Try to talk and convey your message to your spouse. Let your spouse know about how good/bad your day was along with remind them how you feel for them. 5- Honesty: Always speak the truth, never lie or hide things in fear that your spouse won’t understand. Give your spouse a chance to understand you. 6- Freedom: Give your spouse space and freedom to decide for themselves. Don’t take away the personal time of your spouse. When you have practised all of the above, then trust Allah SWT and you will see how beautiful life gets. May Allah bless all our marriages Ameen.

SÈX SECRETS WOMEN DON’T TELL ANYONE — BUT EVERY MAN SHOULD KNOW...✍🏽 Men, listen… there are things your woman will never say out loud — not because she’s secretive, but because she wants you to figure them out. These are the unspoken truths that separate ordinary lovers from unforgettable ones 👇 1. She gets turned on long before you touch her. It starts with how you talk to her, how you look at her, how you make her feel seen. Foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom — it starts with how you treat her during the day. 🔥 2. She notices your smell, not your size. A clean, fresh-smelling man can awaken a woman faster than a gym-built body. Hygiene is one of the biggest turn-ons for women. 💦 3. She doesn’t always want penetration — sometimes she wants connection. Some nights, she just wants to feel your hands, your breath, your warmth. When you rush straight to “the act,” you skip the part that matters most — emotional intimacy. 👀 4. She loves to be watched — but not judged. Most women secretly enjoy being admired during intimacy, but if you make her feel shy, insecure, or compared, she’ll shut down instantly. 💋 5. Whispering turns her on more than shouting. The soft tone of your voice, calling her name, or moaning softly in her ear can drive her wild. Passion isn’t always loud — sometimes it’s the quiet that burns. 🔥 6. The way you touch her thighs tells her what kind of lover you are. Slow, intentional touches show control and desire. Rushed touches show selfishness. Women crave pace, not pressure. 💔 7. Faking it is easier than explaining what she really wants. When she moans too early or too perfectly every time — she might be trying to please your ego, not expressing her pleasure. Learn to read her body, not her sound. 💘 8. She wants you to explore her mind before her body. A woman’s strongest erogenous zone is her mind. Stimulate her emotionally, and she’ll surrender physically. 💫 9. She craves aftercare. After the act, she wants your warmth — cuddling, small talk, or even silence while holding her. It’s not “extra”; it’s part of her satisfaction. 💣 10. The best lovers don’t just make her scream they make her remember. Every woman remembers the man who made her feel safe, wanted, and understood — not just the one who made her reach climax. 👉 MEN, don’t just study her body. Study her silence, her reactions, her needs. That’s where her real pleasure hides. 💞

HOW TO BOOST INTIMACY IN YOUR MARRIAGE 1. Know that intimacy is not just about having sexual intercourse but nurturing a warm, exclusive and strong connection between you two 2. Talk heart to heart. Talk about how you feel, how you are, notice each other's goodness. Talk more than just bills, the children and responsibilities 3. Maintain oral and body hygiene. Your spouse will struggle to get close to you when you smell 4. Make time to spend together. Intimacy is not rushed 5. When you two are far from each other, chat and talk warmly over the phone so that when you meet at home it is a continuation of the warmth 6. Kiss more than your spouse's lips. Kiss your spouse's forehead, cheeks, neck, fingers, arms, back, thighs... The skin has alot of room 7. Talk to each other with a tone that is not attacking, this will invite you both to each other's presence 8. Laugh together. Humour makes two people bond easier 9. Eat together often. Food is a unifier 10. Make out often. Making out involves lengthy deep kissing, fondling, cuddling, massaging 11. Ask each other leading questions. These are questions that will require conversations and not a yes or no answer. Questions such as "How is your dream coming along?", "How did you get this mark on your arm?", "What do you love about us?" 12. Complain less, appreciate more. It is difficult to enjoy the company of someone who is constantly negative 13. Pray more as a couple. Prayers brings you two closer 14. Do activities together. Find something you both can do together such as cooking, playing a game, watching a movie, dancing; love is built on activity 15. Dress in a manner that excites and pulls your spouse to you. Confidently look appealing 16. Give each other eye contact more so that you focus on each other. Tame your phone, TV and gadget use

SEVEN SIGNS SHE’S USING YOU! Not every "I love you" is real. Some women don’t love you—they love what you do for them. Some don’t want you—they want the benefits that come with you. This is where a lot of men get trapped. They mistake manipulation for love. What is Manipulation? Manipulation is when someone controls you by playing mind games, guilt-tripping, or using emotional tricks to get what they want. A manipulative woman won’t demand—she will make you feel like you owe her. She will never say, "I’m just here for your money, time, and effort." Instead, she’ll make you believe that if you truly love her, you will always give. The worst part? When you finally wake up and set boundaries, she will make you feel like the bad guy. 🟥7 Signs She’s Using You: When ‘Love’ is Just Manipulation ✅️1. Everything is about her. Your needs? Ignored. Your dreams? Who cares. Your struggles? Not her problem. But the moment she wants something, you better move mountains, or she’ll accuse you of not being a “real man.” ✅️2. She only contacts you when she needs something. She barely checks on you. But the moment she needs money, a favor, or emotional support—boom—she’s suddenly the sweetest woman alive. And once she gets what she wants? She disappears again. ✅️3. She plays with your emotions to keep you under control. One moment, she showers you with love. The next, she’s distant and cold. When she senses you’re pulling away, she suddenly becomes the “perfect” woman again. This is called push and pull manipulation—it keeps you addicted and confused. ✅️4. She guilts you into doing things for her. If you say NO, she plays the victim. If you refuse to give money, you’re “stingy.” If you demand respect, you’re “controlling.” Instead of asking like an adult, she uses guilt to make you feel like a bad person for setting boundaries. ✅️5. She doesn’t respect your leadership or vision. She wants a provider, not a partner. The moment you talk about your goals, your business, or your vision, she tunes out. But if you mention spending money on her? Now she’s paying full attention. ✅️6. She creates drama when she doesn’t get her way. If she can’t get what she wants with sweet words, she’ll use arguments, silent treatment, or emotional outbursts. She thrives on chaos—because a confused man is easier to control. ✅️7. You feel drained, not empowered. A good woman adds peace, not problems. If you constantly feel mentally exhausted, financially drained, and emotionally confused—you’re in a toxic cycle. Real love builds you up; manipulation breaks you down. Real Love vs. Manipulation: A good woman builds with you. A manipulative woman takes from you. A good woman respects your leadership. A manipulative woman fights your authority. A good woman supports your purpose. A manipulative woman only supports her comfort. What Should You Do? - Wake up. Stop mistaking attention for affection. - Stop rewarding bad behavior. If she throws tantrums and gets what she wants, she’ll keep doing it. - Set boundaries. A real woman won’t manipulate you for saying NO. - Build yourself first. The right woman will recognize your value without you having to buy her love. If a woman only “loves” you when you are providing, you are not her man—you are her meal ticket. Don’t let loneliness make you finance your own disrespect. Choose wisely, Kings. Build first. Lead strong. Love smart.

‎HABITS OF AN IMMATURE WIFE: ‎ ‎1. GOING TO SLEEP IN KIDS' OR SPARE BEDROOM OR SITTING ROOM WHEN THE COUPLE HAVE A MISUNDERSTANDING: This is a sign of avoidance and unwillingness to resolve conflicts. A mature partner would stay and work through the issue, rather than running away from it. childish behavior. ‎ ‎2. TELLING HER HUSBAND HE IS NOT MAN ENOUGH: This is a form of emotional abuse and undermines the partner's self-esteem. A mature partner would communicate constructively about issues without personal attacks. Very few men can survive this injury, yes very few men! ‎ ‎3. "THERE ARE MANY MEN OUT THERE WHO CAN MARRY ME WHEN I LEAVE THIS MARRIAGE": This is a threat and a form of emotional blackmail. A mature partner would address problems in the relationship directly and work towards a solution, and she has forgotten that many single mum and unmarried women are outside there, and the queue is long. ‎ ‎4. BEING QUICK TO GET ANGRY ABOUT EVERYTHING: Excessive anger and overreaction to minor issues is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would respond with more patience and understanding. ‎ ‎5. CAN'T JUST FORGIVE, KEEPS HURTS HER HEART: Holding onto grudges and resentment is a barrier to healthy conflict resolution. A mature partner would be able to forgive and move forward. ‎ ‎6. ALWAYS BEING RIGHT , UNABLE TO ADMIT BEING WRONG : Lack of humility and unwillingness to compromise is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would be open to different perspectives and willing to acknowledge their own mistakes. ‎ ‎7. LOVING PARENTS AND SIBLINGS MORE THAN SPOUSE: This indicates a lack of emotional investment in the marriage and a failure to prioritize the spousal relationship. ‎ ‎8. FEELING ENTITLED TO EVERYTHING: A sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectations is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would have a more balanced view of the give and take in a relationship.‎HABITS OF AN IMMATURE WIFE: ‎ ‎1. GOING TO SLEEP IN KIDS' OR SPARE BEDROOM OR SITTING ROOM WHEN THE COUPLE HAVE A MISUNDERSTANDING: This is a sign of avoidance and unwillingness to resolve conflicts. A mature partner would stay and work through the issue, rather than running away from it. childish behavior. ‎ ‎2. TELLING HER HUSBAND HE IS NOT MAN ENOUGH: This is a form of emotional abuse and undermines the partner's self-esteem. A mature partner would communicate constructively about issues without personal attacks. Very few men can survive this injury, yes very few men! ‎ ‎3. "THERE ARE MANY MEN OUT THERE WHO CAN MARRY ME WHEN I LEAVE THIS MARRIAGE": This is a threat and a form of emotional blackmail. A mature partner would address problems in the relationship directly and work towards a solution, and she has forgotten that many single mum and unmarried women are outside there, and the queue is long. ‎ ‎4. BEING QUICK TO GET ANGRY ABOUT EVERYTHING: Excessive anger and overreaction to minor issues is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would respond with more patience and understanding. ‎ ‎5. CAN'T JUST FORGIVE, KEEPS HURTS HER HEART: Holding onto grudges and resentment is a barrier to healthy conflict resolution. A mature partner would be able to forgive and move forward. ‎ ‎6. ALWAYS BEING RIGHT , UNABLE TO ADMIT BEING WRONG : Lack of humility and unwillingness to compromise is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would be open to different perspectives and willing to acknowledge their own mistakes. ‎ ‎7. LOVING PARENTS AND SIBLINGS MORE THAN SPOUSE: This indicates a lack of emotional investment in the marriage and a failure to prioritize the spousal relationship. ‎ ‎8. FEELING ENTITLED TO EVERYTHING: A sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectations is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would have a more balanced view of the give and take in a relationship.

12 Rights of a Wife upon Her Husband 1. To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy. 2. To be kind to her. The Prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.” 3. Not to harm her. 4. To be loving to her, examples: (A) Loving to her with your tongue. Nice words, tell her you love her. Tell her how good she looks. (B) If your wife asks you to get her something and you can't get it , say I'll get it in shaa' Allāh. (C) That the man beautifies himself with that which is reasonable, (not intimating women). (D) From being loving to your wife is that you help her with housework. This is from the example of the prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) (E) That he is to be playful with his wife. (F) Sharing food with her. (G) To cuddle with her. (H) Sleep under the same cover. (I) they would bathe together: On the authority of 'Āʿishah (raḍī Allāhu ʿanhu) who said: "I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: "Leave some for me, leave some for me!' She added: `We were in a state of Janaabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).'"[Al-Bukharee and Muslim]. 5. That the men must not curse or swear at his wife, or insult her appearance. 6. A man must not boycott her and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home. 7. A man should not expose the secrets of his wife “Verily among the worst people before Allāh on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets.” [Muslim, Ibn Abī Shaybah, Aḥmad and others]. 8. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings. A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good. To look only good in her. 9. That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her. 10. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. It is said that some men have the best manners out in the market , but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion! Kind to strange women in the markets but not to his wife in the home. The best of you are the best of you to your wives. There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Combine the two , and that is good. 11. That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire. O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allāh in what He commands them but do what they are commanded. 12. That the man should have some type of jealousy for his wife. Jealousy of protecting her from evil, not for her to be exposed to strange men, not for her to speak to strange men etc. but not the abusive jealousy. May Allah grant all Sisters in Islam husbands who protect them and take care of them and May Allah grant our brothers the ability to do so, Ameen.

Advice For Wife … When you become a wife, once in a while, look at your husband's face when he is asleep. That is the person who has no blood relationship with you but keeps trying to love you. Once in a while when your husband comes home from work or from his place of business, look at his face, kiss his hand. That is the hand that is working hard to find sustenance to provide you and your children. Before the marriage contract he had no debt of gratitude to you. In fact, he has a debt of gratitude to his father and his mother. He chose you before he could repay all his parents' debt of gratitude. Once in a while when you are alone with him, look at your husband, look at his face with affection and full of respect. It's the face that's struggling out there, it's the face that's burning in the hot sun, it's the face that holds back the heat of the sun and sometimes ignores himself, ignores his own safety, only because of you and your children. Their sacrifice, the sacrifice of a hard worker is very noble. Islam highly respects people who have a high work ethic. People who work can be said to be Jihaad fi sabilillah. As the Prophet Saw said: “Who works hard to make a living for his family, then he is a mujaahid fi sabilillah." (Narrated by Ahmad) The Messenger of Allah ﷺ also said: “Whoever in the afternoon feels exhausted because of the work of his hands, then in the afternoon he gets forgiveness.” (Thabarani and al-Baihaqi). I salute and look respectfully at people whose hands are black and rough because they seek sustenance in the way of Allah. And I salute and look respectfully for all the struggle of a man who seeks sustenance in the way of Allah, seeking halaal sustenance for his family. Don't give up brothers, fathers, all men with *father's titles* out there. May Allah protect you and give everything you want for your family. Ameen

10 THINGS WOMEN WANTS BUT WON'T TELL YOU. Every woman wants these 10 things but they may not tell you, in most cases they expect you to know. ❤1... Respect.... Every woman wants respect from her man. Respect is reciprocal. If she respects you, you respect her in return. 💛2... Good morning and good night messages.... Every woman wants this from her man. if you do this often with your woman, she believes you love her and she's important to you. 💚3... Value her..... Every woman wants a man who values her and makes her his priority. 💖4... Hugs from behind..... Every woman wants a man who will always show her deep affection. 💙5... Deep and long conversation.... Every woman wants a man who can communicate with her effectively. 💗6... Make time for her... Every woman wants a man who will always make time for her no matter how busy he is, a man who will always give her maximum attention. 💜7... Taking pictures with her.... Every woman wants a man who will always take pictures with her to remind her of the memories she's shared with you. ❤8... Surprises.... Every woman loves surprises, even the little ones. 💛9... Honesty.... Every woman wants a honest and transparent man. A man who never lies. 💜10... A giver.... Every woman wants a man who can share with her even from the little he has. A man who is not stingy.

No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you cannot do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the Allah. Say a word of prayer for your spouse daily. Every other thing may fail and may not work, but no force can withstand the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only Allah can heal him/her. You can’t lengthen the days of your spouse, only Allah can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only Allah can do that for him/her. Pray to Allah. Mention the name of your husband/wife to Allah. Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hands of the devil. All these seven things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your to-do list. Don’t forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack. If you give your spouse all these, I guarantee that there is a high assurance that you will get them back. Halal Muslim Couple

SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them: 1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time. 2. Give Your Spouse SPACE As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planning, etc. Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it. 3. Give Your Spouse A CALL/CHAT Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Face book friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all through the day. Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.” Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love. 4. Give Your Spouse A HUG Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is the scarcity of spousal hugs that makes many men indiscriminately hug ladies who are not their wives. Many women too crave for hugs and unwittingly allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs. Hugs can be given in the morning, or at night, but let no day pass without you hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, or an affirmative hug. Hugging is a non-verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for a hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically. 5. Give Your Spouse A SMILE God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, “You delight me,” “Your presence amuses me,” “I am pleased with you.” Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I don’t like people who are not generous with their smiles. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, please smile! Keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse!!! Halal Muslim Couple 6. Give Your Spouse PEACE OF MIND The home is the endpoint of everything we do daily. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site everyday. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the court everyday, etc. We all must go back home. Home is the endpoint. Therefore, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, stop fighting, Stop insulting, stop abusing, stop threatening, and stop humiliating your spouse. Give him/her rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife to your husband, not a ‘knife’. Blessed are the couples who give each other peace of mind daily! 7. Give Your Spouse A PRAYER

THESE TRUTH MIGHT NOURISH, SAVE AND HELP YOUR MARRIAGE Halal Muslim Couple, in marriage.. 1. Your spouse will misunderstand you, so learn to communicate effectively. 2. Your spouse will disagree with you, so learn to debate and not argue. 3. Your spouse will offend you, so learn to extend grace and forgiveness. 4. Your spouse will sometimes have bad moods, so learn to see beyond emotions, see commitment. 5. Your spouse will have bad days, so learn to be sensitive, understanding and cheering. 6. Your spouse will not always be there for you, so learn to accept your spouse as a human being with limitation, don't put pressure. 7. Your spouse will be tempted, so learn to keep off the little foxes and help your spouse back on track. 8. Your spouse will not always love you exactly as you want, so learn to teach your spouse how to love you. 9. Your spouse will not always be in the mood for love making, so learn to either warm up your spouse for it or to understand it is not a must to have sex everyday. 10. Your spouse will have doubts and fears, so learn to give assurance and inspire confidence. 11. Your spouse will not always see things from your perspective, so learn to be accomodating. 12. Your spouse will not always grow at your pace or do things as quickly as you expect, so learn to be patient. 13. Your spouse will not always do right, so learn to correct him/her with love. 14. Your spouse will not always announce that he/she is hurting, so learn to read your spouse's tone, body language, facial expression and the unspoken. Know your spouse well and anticipate your spouse's needs. 15. Your spouse may not always be in the mood for talking, so learn not to be scared of silence, your love is not ending. As an individual, sometimes your spouse needs personal space to gather his/her thoughts. 16. Your spouse may not always follow your advice, so learn to make peace with that. 17. Your spouse may say things that don't come out right, so learn not to take those unpleasant words to heart that they cancel every other good thing your spouse has said and done. 18. Your spouse will not always be enthusiastic about your love, so learn to remind your spouse of how far you come and seek ways to reignite the fire and passion.

How to maintain your Wife’s privacy from your family members? 1. Request your family not to enter your wife’s room unless she approves, for example, when she is lying down or if she has closed the door. (Note; every jealous husband should at least have a lock on his bedroom door!) 2. Ask your brothers not to hover outside her bedroom door. 3. No one should rummage through her cupboard or handbag unless she approves. 4. She should not be ‘deliberately’ overheard when she is talking on the phone. 5. If she has gone somewhere with your permission, everyone else in the house need not now where she has gone and for how long. 6. Her laundry should not be hung in a place where your male relatives can see her personal garments. 7. Sometimes, she should be allowed to eat her meals in privacy with you, where she will be comfortable. Note that scholars opine that the husband cannot force his wife to have all her meals with her in-laws… 8. Lastly, do not reveal her secrets or personal affairs to your family members. If they ask too many questions, make it politely clear that this kind of inquisitive behaviour is not right.

WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE MORE THAN THEY LOVE YOU I understand that feeling, when you realize that you are the one planning almost everything. The one reaching out, trying, giving, loving — while they just receive. Sometimes, you start ask yourself: “Do they love me the way I love them?” Feeling like you love your spouse more than they love you isn’t just painful — it’s lonely, especially in a relationship that’s supposed to be mutual. Here's Why This Happens 1. Different Love Languages: You may show love through words and affection, while your spouse may express love through acts of service or responsibility. It’s not that they don’t care — they may just be speaking a language you’re not recognizing. 2. Emotional Imbalance Over Time: When one partner consistently overfunctions (doing all the emotional work), the other may underfunction — not always from laziness, but from comfort, habit, or assumption that “everything’s fine.” 3. Stress and Disconnection: Sometimes the distance isn’t about you — it’s about life. Work, parenting, finances, or personal struggles can make your partner emotionally unavailable without realizing it. 4. Resentment That Wasn’t Addressed: Unspoken frustrations build walls. If one or both partners have unresolved hurts, it may show up as indifference, withdrawal, or coldness — even though love is still there beneath the surface. What You Can Do 🎯 Start With Honest Communication: Instead of accusing — “You don’t love me like I love you!”, try vulnerability–“Lately, I feel like I’m the only one reaching out. I miss feeling chosen. Can we talk about it?” 🎯 Invite Partnership, Not Performance: Your partner isn’t your project. Let them know what you need emotionally, but also invite them into shared responsibility for the relationship — with love, not pressure. 🎯 Check the Story You’re Telling Yourself: Are you assuming they don’t love you because they express it differently? Or because they’re not meeting your unspoken expectations? Reflect on whether your feelings match their intentions or just their actions. 🎯 Ask What Love Looks Like for Them: You might be giving them what you define as love… not what they need or understand. Invite mutual clarity and find the sweet spot where both of you feel seen. 🎯 Don’t Keep Score: Love isn’t a competition. While balance is important, true love gives — not to earn back, but to build up. If you’re always giving but never refilled, it’s time for a reset, not revenge. Feeling like you love your spouse more can be disheartening — but it doesn’t always mean they love you less. Sometimes, it means they show it differently. Sometimes, it means life got loud and love got quiet. And sometimes, it’s a signal to pause, talk, adjust, and realign. Because a healthy marriage isn’t about who loves more — it’s about both partners learning how to love better.