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Teach yourself the art of denying immediate gratification for the sake of something more important, and show yourself that you already have everything you need, or at least, more than you think you do (even when it doesn't feel like it). 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Seek out ways to appreciate the way people are, not the way you want them to be. It is not your job to judge who is deserving of your love and kindness. It is not your job to fix anybody. It is only your job to love them in whatever way is appropriate. You are not anybody else's god. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

The sun regenerates your body— we are as solar-powered as the foods we eat-and to deny your body that source of warmth and light is to deplete your feel-good hormones and everything else you were built to live in. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

"What do I want?" is a question you need to ask yourself every day. What are you doing today? Who do you love? What intrigues you? What would you do today if you could be anyone you wanted? If social media didn't exist? What do you want to do this weekend? 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

You owe nothing to your younger self. You are not responsible for being the person you once thought you'd be. But you do owe something to the adult you are today. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Anxiety builds in our idle hours. Fear and resistance thrive when we're avoiding the work that we know needs to be done. Most things aren't as hard or as trying as we chalk them up to be. They're expressions of who we really are. That's why we want them. Taking small steps will remind you that this is true. It will soothe you in a way that just thinking about taking action never will. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Nothing has to be an essential part of you unless you decide it is — least of all anxiety and fear. In fact, those things are never essentially part of who someone is, they are learned behaviors. They are ego-reactions that go unchecked. They are flashing lights and waving flags from our innermost selves that something is not right. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Death gives life meaning. It's the fact that we can lose what we have that makes it sacred and precious and wonderful. It's not about what pain you suffer; it's about what you suffer for. You can choose to cut yourself off from feeling good so as to buffer the sense of loss and suffer from numbness, or you can have an incredible life and mourn wildly when it's over, but at least there was a means to that end. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

We are programmed to seek what we've known. So even though we think we're after happiness, we're actually trying to find whatever we're most accustomed to, and we project that on whatever actually exists, over and over again. These are just a few of many psychological impediments that hold us back from the emotional lives we claim to want. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Nobody wants to believe happiness is a choice, because that puts responsibility in their hands. It's the same reason people self-pity: to delay action. To make an outcry to the universe. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Your anxiety is your resistance to the process, your last grasps at a control you are becoming more and more aware that you do not have. Your tiredness is your resistance to who you really are, the person you actually want to be. Your annoyance is your repressed anger. Your depression, biological factors aside of course, is everything coming to the surface, and you bellowing down to stow it away. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Discomfort is what happens when we are on the precipice of change. It usually takes a bit of discomfort to break through to a new understanding, to release a limiting belief, to motivate ourselves to create real change. Discomfort is a signal, one that is often very helpful. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

Emotionally intelligent people are not stuck in the illusion that "happiness" is a sustained state of joy. They allow themselves time to process everything they are experiencing. They allow themselves to exist in their natural state. In that non-resistance, they find contentment. They don't withhold their feelings or try to temper them so much as to render them almost gone. They do, however, have the capacity to withhold their emotional response until they are in an environment wherein it would be appropriate to express how they are feeling. They don't suppress their emotional response; they manage it effectively. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

"The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way." Simply, running into a "problem" forces you to take action to resolve it. That action will inevitably lead you to think differently, behave differently, and choose differently. The "problem” becomes a catalyst for you to actualize the life you always wanted. It pushes you from your comfort zone, that’s all. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

The elements of our world were once just solutions to fears. In a more cerebral context, if you consciously learn to regard the "problems" in your life as openings for you to adopt a greater understanding and then develop a better way of living, you will step out of the labyrinth of suffering and learn what it means to thrive. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think Brianna Wiest

The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way. Marcus Aurelius

Он признан виновным в преступлении, которое вовсе не преступление — в том, что он — личность. Он думает по-своему. Приглашение на Казнь Владимир Владимирович Набоков

My mother never came to us with her problems, she just shouldered them on her own. So when I couldn’t shoulder my own problems, I lost respect for myself. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t measure up to my own expectations. When the Body Says No Gabor Maté