Our Side of the Story

ቅድም ክላስ ውስጥ ቆንጅዬ ክርክር ውስጥ ነበርን፣ about a bunch of things. mainly, therapy and religion, and the circumstances in which a therapist can breach confidentiality. hypothetical case present ተደረገ፣ someone with a history of child abusing came forward to you (the therapist) admitting they abused a child which led them to have some psychological issues and now they’ve learned from their “mistakes” and want to be a better person. would you breach confidentiality or not? ተብሎ ተጠየቀ። child abuse is one of the situations where a therapist is allowed to breach confidentiality and report to authorities, ግልፅ ነው። obviously i’m going to breach the confidentiality! እኔ ነኝ ግን። ሌላ ሰው “አይ ምናልባት እድል ብንሰጠውስ? ከ ልቡ ከሆነ? እና ያው ዲፔንድ ያደርጋል እ ቀለል ያለ ከሆነ እና አንዴ ብቻ ካደረገው” ምናምን🙂 guaranteed ላልሆነ potential ለሀጫችን የሚዘረበረበው ነገር ሲደብረኝ፣ በግልፅ የሚታይ እና የሚዳሰስ issue at hand እያለ ወደፊት ሊፀፀት፣ ደህና ሰው ሊሆን፣ ሊወደኝ፣ ልትወደኝ፣ ሊቀየር ይችላል እህ እህ። ነገር አስፍቶ from different perspectives ማየት የተቀደሰ ተግባር ነው፣ ሰው የሌለውን እና ያላሰበውን good side fabricate ማድረግ ግን አጉል humility በ ግብዝ righteousness ተከሽኖ ነው የሚመስለኝ። ማንም የሚያጨበጭብላችሁ የለም። የምታዩትን እና የምትሰሙትን እመኑ፣ potential ለማመንም የምታዩት አሳማኝ ነገር ሊኖር ይገባል አለዚያ መመፃደቁ ቢቆየን? ደግ እደሩ :).

safe to say one of my most favourite reads, not finished yet mind you and i don’t do favourites.

https://c.org/jQVfwmx8tw

https://c.org/jQVfwmx8tw

ለእህታችን ቻሌንጅ! 100 ብር ለአንድ ሰው ትንሽ ቢመስልም ስንበዛ ግን ከኛ የወጣው 100 ብር ለሌላ ሰው ህይወቱን ማትረፍ ሊሆን ይችላል ከ100 ብር ጀምረን መላክ የምንችለውን እንላክላት... ለእህታችን እንድረስ❤️ CBE - 1000487578828 TeleBirr - 0911179293 Awash Bank - 013471629151800 ሁሉም አካውንት ስም - Rahel Aregay የምትመለከቱዋት ወጣት ታዳጊ ኤልሮኢ ቅዱስ ትባላለች በአጥንት ካንሰርን ህክምና ላይ ትገኛለች በሽታው ከታወቀ አንድ አመት ሆኗታል በበሽታው ምክንያትም የግራ እጇ ሙሉ በሙሉ እንዲወገድ ተደርጓል ሆኖም ግን ኤልሮይ ተስፋ ሳትቆርጥ ህክምናዋን እየተከታተለች ነው አሁን ግን በሽታው ወደ ሳንባዋ በመሠራጨቱ የመተንፈስ ችግር ስላጋጠማት በአሁን ሰአት በአዲስ አበባ Heal Venture Medical and Surgical Center በ ICU ትገኛለች ሆኖም ግን በአሁን ሰአት ላይ የሆስፒታሉ ወጪ በቀን ከ50,000ብር ነው ከቤተሰብ ከአቅም በላይ ስለሆነ እናትም አባትም አጠገቧ ስለሌሉ ጓደኞቿ እያሳከሟት ነው.. እኛ ከጎኗ እንሁን

found a way to make my old phone work and erm, ተመስገን for growth and moving on ብቻ🤭

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i feel so incapacitated when every time i encounter someone in a terrible situation, all i can do is journal it down and go about my life. ከ አለም ሲኒማ ወደ ኤድና ሞል የምትወስደዋ መንገድ የለችም? we were talking about how my braids were done with five wigs when a very frightened woman walked closer to us, i panicked because i’ve been hearing a lot of horror stories about how people are getting robbed these days and my first instinct was to step back from her. i spared her a second glance because i saw literal agony in her eyes. i honestly don’t remember what she said the first few seconds, she was just crying. something about leaving her kid alone at home to go out and beg for money because she couldn’t pay rent. we gave her what we could and started to go our way when she started sobbing and said “አንዴ ቆመሽ ስሚኝ ይቅርታ” “እሺ it’s okay” “እናቴ HIV በሽተኛ ናት እኔም እንደዛው ልለምን ወጣሁ ግን ቆሞ የሚሰማኝ አጣሁ ይቅርታ ልለምን ወጣሁ ይቅርታ” she kept apologising because she wanted someone to listen to her and and consider her a human being. i went over everything i considered as a solution in my head but none of them had longevity other than giving her false hope. all i could afford was “አይዞሽ” the very thing i hate the most to say for someone in situations like this. anyway, happy Wednesday?

some of you lot piss me off and have me laughing in disbelief in the same breath. አድናቆት or compliment እራሳቸውን ችለው መቆም የሚችሉ ለምን እንደማይመስላችሁ አላውቅም፣ የግድ የሆነች ሰንካላ criticism አብራ ካልታዘለች ያዞራችሗል ልማኦ። i’ve observed this on TikTok for a while, especially on women creators. whether they’re painting, singing or playing an instrument. ወንዶችም ሆነው ትንሽ ልጅ ቢጤ ከመሰሉ እና እንደሚያውቅ ሰው ብታብጠለጥሏቸው ምንም እንደማያመጡ እርግጠኛ ስትሆኑ። በሰላም ሀገር comment section ስር የሚደበሩ አንድ ሰውዬ ወይ ሴትዮ አይጠፉም “እ ስዕሉ እኮ ቆንጆ ነበር ኮንሴፕቱ ጥሩ ሆኖ ሳለ፣ ትንሽ ካንቫሷ ተጣመመችብሽ፣ የሆነች ቀለም ቦርጨቅ ብላብሻለች እንጂ ጎበዝ ነሽ፣ በርቺ” “ድምፅሽ ዋው! ግን ሀይ ፒች ሆነብሽ (it’s always high pitch lmao) እ መሀል ላይ ያወጣሻት ድምፅ አበላሸቸው እንጂ አቅም አለሽ፣ በርቺ” see how insufferable that sounds? criticism is necessary, but only if you have the expertise to do so or you’ve spent a long time on the subject you’re criticising. the expertise ያለው ሰው criticise ሲያደርግ ያምርበታል፣ heartfelt and authentic advice እንደሆነ ያስታውቃል፣ a whole bunch of nonsense ስትሉም ያስታውቃል። ካደነቃችሁ ዝምብላችሁ አድንቁ፣ አለበለዚያ አታስቁኝ።

መጀመሪያ ስለ ፖለቲካ ለማወቅ ለመጠየቅ ትንሽም interested የሆንኩት የመጀመሪያው የትግራይ ጦርነት ጊዜ ነበር። እድሜ ለ ትዊተር፣ በጣም ብዙ ሰው ይንገበገባል፣ ብዙ የሚፅፉት፣ የሚሟገቱት ነበራቸው። I remember feeling like an imposter among them, because I had no idea what was going on and as embarrassing as this is, I didn’t care. Because you know? As long as it’s not me or those who I care about it’s really not that important. እነ ማሚ የሚያውቋቸው ሰዎች ጋር ስልክ ሲደውሉ አይሰራም፣ የማውቃቸው የጊቢ ተማሪዎች ተጠሩ። ትንሽ ፐርሰናል ሆነ አይደል? ትንሽ አስብ ትንሽ እጨነቅ ትንሽ እፀልይ ጀመር። ሰከንድ ይር ተማሪ ሆነን ከመቀሌ ዩኒቨርስቲ ተበትነው ወደእኛ ጊቢ የመጡ ተማሪዎች ነበሩ፣ አኗኗሪ ነበሩ፣ ጥድፍ ጥድፍ ብሎ ሁሉም ነገር አልቆባቸው መቼ መጥተው መቼ እንደሄዱም አላስታውስም፣ ያሳዝኑኛል። ቀርቤ ባወራቸው እና ባይናቸው ያዩትን፣ the reality they lived ባወቅሁ ኖሮ ብዬ ይቆጨኛል። አራተኛ አመት ደግሞ አማራ ክልልም ጦርነት ደረሰ፣ ሰለኖርኩበት ጓደኞች ስላሉኝ አንጀቴ ጋር የሚሰማኝ ህመም ነበር። 7 ወር ቁጭ ብለን ስንመለስ ብዙ PTSD የነበረባቸው ልጆች ነበሩ፣ ትንሽ ድምፅ trigger የሚያደርጋቸው። አብዛኞቹ were desensitised, አንድ እሁድ ማታ ግቢያችን ውስጥ የሚገርም ተኩስ ተከፍቶ እኛ በዳዴ ሮጠን ስንደበቅ ለሰከንድ ያልደነገጡ፣ እኛኑ አይዟችሁ ያሉን። ጦርነት እና ሰላም ማጣት እንዴት መልክ እንደሚቀይር፣ እንደሚያሳቅቅ፣ እንዴት የከተማ አየር እና ሽታ እንደሚቀይር፣ እንዴት helpless እንደሚያደርግ በጣም በትንሹ አይቻለሁ፣ ሰምቻለሁ። የትግራይን እናቶች እያየሁ አይኔ በለቅሶ ብዛት ሊፈነዳ፣ ስንት እና ስንት ልጅ፣ ባል፣ ወዳጅ፣ ዘመድ ከቀበሩ በሗላ፣ ስንት inexplicable horror ካሳለፉ ከተተለተሉ በሗላ የትኛው አይዟችሁ እንደሚጠግናቸው አላውቅም፣ መጠገኑ ቀርቶ ሌላ ሊጨመርባቸው። I couldn’t imagine living in their reality for a minute እንጃ እኔ እንዴት መሽቶ እንደሚነጋላቸው። አንጀት ሲበሉ በየኮመንት ሴክሽን ስር ያሉት ወጣቶች፣ እኔ አላውቅም ብቻ። ከየት እንደምጀምር፣ ለየትኛው እና እንዴት እንደሚፀለይም አላውቅበት ለዚህ የጉድ ሀገር።

whenever i go shopping, it’s the faces i see. is you patient enough to handle my indecisiveness? or are you gonna stand over there and መገላመጥ me like you’re the one paying? የእንጀራ ጉዳይ ሆኖ እንጂ most of the people working in customer service are not supposed to be working there. ሲሆን ሲሆን according to their personality they don’t even like interacting with people. ያሳዝኑኛል ሲመናቀሩ and i try to laugh it off. their lack of common decency is not justifiable but some part of me believes they’d be good at their jobs if they were working in a field they liked. i don’t believe in working a job that i don’t like or one i wouldn’t grow into enjoying, i’m actually so serious about this. ”የት ነው የምትኖሪው Deborah?🙂” እንዳትሉኝ። i’m very well aware of the reality most people live in and i have this opinion because i’m probably privileged enough to have it. life is taxing enough as it is let alone finding yourself day in and day out in an environment that you hate. ቢሆንልን i wish for people to earn a living from the things they love and care about, ህልም አይከለከል።

if you’ve stayed here long enough, you already know i love everything that is music. as someone who claims to love music, I’ve listened to almost every genre and my ears are always ready to explore new songs. i even had a “performative music lover” era🤭 where i pretended to love hip hop and tortured myself with memorising the lyrics. there are a few artists i still like honestly, but you’re less likely to find anything hip hop in my playlists. the type of music you’re into isn’t to market yourself to people and be seen as cool, it’s about finding what embodies your soul and what you can’t put into words no matter how hard you try. because some experiences of being human are only better explained through art. and it’s all about finding that specific color of music that perfectly paints your insides. if you don’t like jazz, please don’t listen to it. leave it to those who do. find your own taste, i promise you it’s there. can someone tell who you are based on the type of music you listen to? yes it is that deep. also know that it’s not necessary to love music lol, you may not have the interest to sit down and spend hours listening to the same song or obsess over hunting for albums of an artist you liked and that’s completely okay. you won’t be cooler because you listen to every genre and you’re not gonna be less cool because you only know popular TikTok songs (i will judge you lmao but that’s not the point). point yalew aymeslegnim but anyway…